You don’t have to process this alone. You can get back on track. You can find happiness again. You can be whole again.

Everyone’s reaction to abortion is different — unique to them. It’s important to recognize what you’re experiencing and find a supportive place.

What you are feeling is perfectly normal. Your life story, your personal values, even your health play a role in how you feel as abortion touches your life. The good news is that you don’t have to keep feeling the way you do. We can help.

Please be gentle with yourself and realize that your feelings are valid. We have walked the road toward healing, and we’d like to walk along with you.

Grandparents
While each person’s experience is different, there are some common threads. Recognizing what you are feeling can help you know how to heal.
Grandparents often grieve for the loss of their grandchild. Some of us worry deeply about our daughters or sons. We mourn the loss of our children as we knew them. We can feel angry at our child or child’s partner for the abortion. And some of us blame ourselves.


Siblings
While each person’s experience is different, there are some common threads. Recognizing what you are feeling can help you know how to heal.
Brothers and sisters often grieve the loss of a sibling to abortion. Some experience a profound sense of loss. Some wonder why they survived when their sibling did not. Others feel a great sense of expectation to be perfect to replace the child who wasn’t allowed to live. The issues are complex, but the need for healing is simple.


Friends
While each person’s experience is different, there are some common threads. Recognizing what you are feeling can help you know how to heal.
Abortion reaches into the entire community. If your friend experienced an abortion and you were affected by it, you might be struggling with complex emotions you don’t believe you have any right to feel. Or, you may feel guilt that you did not offer your friend support to make a different choice. Whatever you are feeling, your experience is valid and you deserve healing so you can move forward with your life.
Whatever your experience, you deserve to heal.

Each person is unique. There is no “graduation” process from healing, but you will begin to feel progress. Mentors and friends you make along the way can provide feedback to help you recognize how you’ve grown in your journey. Healing looks different in every person, and there are numerous resources to help keep you on the path towards peace.

Whatever it takes, the journey is worth it! When you reach the other side, you will be whole. The loss will no longer have control of you.

After healing, many family members and friends feel a desire to give back to the community, to help others who are contemplating abortion or grieving an abortion. Some want to help in other ways, by teaching or mentoring or serving. If you feel called to share your gift of healing with others, we want to hear from you! We would like to connect you with people in your community who can benefit from your generosity.

Many family members and friends also find their faith strengthened as a result of post-abortion healing. Whether you were active in a faith tradition before you began or not, you may want to become more involved now. We have resources to share and can help you find a house of worship or prayer/ministry groups.